I believe you are right, Manya, acceptance and love definitely have something to do with it.
For me, it is forgiveness of myself.
Before my gran died of cancer, I never really appreicated her, I never told her I loved her, I just took and never gave back.
Now that she’s dead, the guilt I felt lived on for at least four years.
My life has reached a turning point this year, and I have discovered a lot of things; love, knowledge, people and good books that have taught me to accept and to forgive myself.
I have now said goodbye to my gran, and I know that she forgives me, even though I would love to hear her say it herself.